There are many ways to practice male chastity, and one of the major considerations is how long to lock your partner in a chastity cage. And of course this is related to how long you might choose to deny them their orgasm. There are several things to consider when deciding how long to keep your partner locked in their chastity cage, and how you approach the issue will be determined by several factors such as what role male chastity plays in your relationship, how long do you plan to participate in male chastity, and what is your objective in locking your partner in a chastity cage.
In this post, we’ll explore some ideas which will play a role in deciding how long you will want to keep your partner locked in their male chastity cage.
Why Are You Using A Male Chastity Cage?
Are you using the chastity cage to spice things up in the bedroom for the evening, or is male chastity a lifestyle choice? If the former, you may only choose to lock your partner in their chastity cage for no more than a few hours. However, if male chastity is more of a lifestyle choice, the chastity cage might stay on indefinitely, except for cleaning and edging.
With my wife, except for a few days immediately following the times that I’m permitted to ejaculate, I’m wearing my chastity cage all the time. However, we’ve carved out some exceptions for certain high intensity sports and for travel. For us, my wife loves that I willingly wear my chastity cage, so it’s unspoken between us that I’ll put it on and wear it most of the time. For us, my chastity cage is like an addition to my wedding ring, so it’s not necessary to enforce it.
For other couples who use male chastity as a means of enforcing a sense of submission and domination, it may be necessary for the keyholder to not allow access to the key, and to keep the chastity locked in place for extended periods of time.
If you’re looking to assert such dominance, I’d recommend keeping the chaste partner locked in his chastity cage for at least a little bit longer than feels comfortable for him. If he’s comfortable being locked and denied an orgasm for one week, keep him locked for at least ten days. Male chastity doesn’t start to get really interesting until the cage is locked around your cock 24/7 for longer than expected. I find that any less than a few weeks isn’t very interesting, and doesn’t really allow me to feel the sense of giving my wife the gift of being denied my own orgasm. Until she’s received at least four or five orgasms, I just don’t feel like I’ve sacrificed enough for her.
If you’re using male chastity as a way to keep things spicy in the bedroom, then by all means, only hold the keys for a few hours. This type of play can be extremely fun, and can be a great way to experiment with using a chastity cage.
If your goal is long term orgasm denial and femdom, I would recommend keeping your partner locked in his chastity cage 24/7 indefinitely for at least a month or longer, with the exception of cleaning and edging. You might consider removing his chastity cage at random times simply as a reminder of what life is like without having his cock constrained, but these times should be either tightly supervised or should be in a situation in which he’s unable to “take matters into his own hands”. These brief periods of freedom are only to give him something to long for once he’s locked up again. This will also remind him that you can lock and unlock him at will, and when it suits you, thus enhancing the power dynamic.
Consider Why You’re Practicing Male Chastity
The length of time you keep your partner locked in a chastity cage will also be determined by why you’ve chosen to play with male chastity. If you’re looking to spice up your sex life, a short lockup period is perfectly fine. If you’re looking to exert power over your partner, you’ll need to keep him locked up for an extended period of time. Otherwise, he won’t feel the impact of the chastity cage.
Set A Release Date or Totally Random?
As for whether to set a release date or surprise your partner when you remove his chastity cage, this will be dependent upon your (and his) psychological makeup. What might work for one couple might not work for another. My wife and I keep it completely random, though as mentioned before, my chastity cage is more symbolic than anything else, though my orgasms are still denied regardless. We’ve just found that my wife prefers not to be too concerned with it, and would rather be free to enjoy my cock when it suits her without any pressure to adhere to a schedule.
However, a definitive release date can be thrilling, especially if it’s far off in the distance. And as a further power move, some keyholders like to arbitrarily extend the release date as a response to minor transgressions, or just because they can.
Summary
If you’re using a chastity cage for short term play or just for an evening’s entertainment, this issue is almost not relevant as you’ll likely unlock your partner within a few hours. If chastity is any longer than a few days, I recommend figuring out what your partner’s comfort zone is and keeping him locked in chastity just a little bit longer than that. Enjoy!