My wife and I practice our own form of male chastity and we love what it brings to our relationship. These days I wear a chastity cage nearly 24/7, though we don’t engage in traditional BDSM or feminization, but practicing male chastity has had enormous benefits for us.
How We Practice Male Chastity
First, I should explain how my wife and I practice male chastity. As I detailed in another post, I wear the chastity cage nearly 24/7. My wife holds one key and we keep the other key tucked away in a drawer at home so it’s accessible in case of an emergency.
We have an agreement that only my wife is allowed to have an orgasm whenever and however she wants. As part of our male chastity practice, it’s understood that I won’t experience orgasm. The only exception is if I become so aroused from satisfying my wife orally or from rimming her that brings me over the edge. She loves that I can get so aroused from exploring her body that it can bring me to climax (even while wearing my chastity cage), so we make an exception for this. If she removes my cage in order to have me penetrate her, it’s understood that I’ll stop before I orgasm, and will then proceed to satisfy her orally. We’ve discussed allowing me to masturbate once per month, especially if I’ve not climaxed otherwise, but this remains to be seen. And of course, my wife teases me regularly to ensure that I’m always a little bit aroused.
I find the best underwear for complement a male chastity cage is men’s thong underwear, especially thong underwear with a bulge enhancing feature as this allows enough room for the cage and sufficiently supports it throughout the day. A side benefit of this is that my wife absolutely loves how I look in a thong. She finds it incredibly sexy and loves admiring my body when I’m wearing one, and I’m happy to oblige, especially if it’s for her pleasure and turns her on.
And now on to the things I love about male chastity…
1. I’m Always Aroused and Ready to Please My Wife
This is probably mostly a benefit for my wife, but I love it too. My wife has told me that she loves having me locked in a chastity cage because she loves knowing that I’m always horny for her. Even if we don’t have sex on a particular day, she loves knowing that if she desired it, there would be no question that I’d be ready to go in an instant.
I try not to overwhelm her with sexual advances as I know what her appetite for sex usually is, so I do my best to read her needs. Sometimes when I see that she’s been particularly stressed from work, I’ll invite her to the bedroom and she’ll find me waiting for her on the bed, clad only in a thong with my chastity cage locked underneath. Even if all we do is some passionate kissing and fondling, she always leaves much more relaxed. And she likes knowing that once I’ve satisfied her, she’s under no obligation to reciprocate, though she’ll usually spend a couple of minutes teasing me as a way to saying thank you. If she’s super busy with work, she’ll just kiss me, get dressed, and return to work.
She loves being relieved of the burden of feeling like she needs to reciprocate by bringing me to orgasm, and I really love this too. When she recovers from her orgasm and either goes back to work or drifts off to sleep, I love feeling my cock pushing against my chastity cage as I bask in the high of the experience.
2. She Never Has to Be Concerned About Satisfying Me
As mentioned in the previous paragraph, my wife loves not feeling the need to satisfy me sexually. This took some getting used to for her as many women are conditioned to feel like they absolutely must bring their man to orgasm. Once she felt free to relieve herself of this pressure, she really leaned into our male chastity. She now loves being able to lay back and simply enjoy the experience of me doing everything I can to please her, and I absolutely love watching her enjoy it.
3. I Love the Constant Denial
It might seem odd to phrase it this way, but I really do love the orgasm denial. I’m in a constant state of arousal and a constant high. Once I orgasm, as is the case with most men, I have no more interest in sex whatsoever, so with male chastity I have the opportunity to expand the sexual experience for weeks and months at a time.
When I see my wife coming to orgasm, it brings me indescribable joy and arousal. While I don’t actually have an orgasm when we have sex, I can still feel the energy of her body flowing through me, and the feeling is electric. When she orgasms, I can feel a sense of satisfaction and relief (somewhat), almost as if I had a sort of orgasm myself. Not that I feel satisfied in the same way I would if I actually had an orgasm, but I have a sense of finality from having brought my wife to orgasm and having brought her such intense physical pleasure. When I’m locked in chastity, this feeling brings me a high that brings me a great sense of joy and satisfaction.
Whenever I begin to feel even just slightly aroused during the day while I’m wearing my cage, it brings about a little high. It’s like constantly micro-dosing your favorite psychedelic every day.
4. Male Chastity is Incredibly Intimate
Wearing a locked cage and ring around your genitals has a way of bringing you closer to your partner. It’s a profound act of trust, even if you do have access to the keys. And agreeing to give up your right to an orgasm is an incredibly intimate act.
When I feel my chastity cage locked around my cock throughout the day, it’s a constant reminder of my promise not to orgasm. There’s something about promising such an intensely personal thing that makes me feel closer to my wife. It’s like I’m giving up this incredibly satisfying and gratifying act in the interest of bringing her even more sexual pleasure. And she loves that I’ve agreed to make this sacrifice for her too. When I experience her climaxes, I actually don’t even want to cum as that would negate all of the pleasure I’ve given her. We both love that it’s a completely selfless act and that our sex is all about how I can please her. She tells me what she enjoys, and sometimes she even chooses to masturbate instead of having me give her oral. I love these times as she’s incredibly sexy when she masturbates. I usually just caress her body and suck on her nipples as she masturbates, then I hold her in my arms after she’s cum.
5. Male Chastity is Hot and Erotic!
I can’t think of a hotter and more erotic practice than male chastity. Our sex doesn’t end when my wife cums. Instead, it simply continues on and on. After she orgasms, she knows that I’m still horny, and she loves that. Even if I make advances and she’s not in the mood, she loves it because it makes her feel desired. And she knows it’s okay if she doesn’t accept my advances. I’m ready to please her whenever she’s ready.
When we go about our day, she knows that I’m always wearing my chastity cage under my clothes. While we interact with colleagues and friends, the only people who know anything about it is her and me. It’s hot knowing that secretly, I’m horny as hell, my cock is locked in a chastity cage, and I’m wearing a sexy thong that my wife will enjoy admiring me in when I get undressed for her at the end of the day.
Summary
I realize that male chastity is not for everyone, but I highly recommend giving it a try, if even just for a few days here and there. It’s the most fulfilling intimate experience I’ve ever had with a partner.