How We Implement Male Chastity

My wife and I have been practicing male chastity now for several years and we’ve gone through quite a bit of experimentation to get where we are now. I had always have a fascination with orgasm denial and chastity, but never knew that it was a known fetish until I began to read about it online.

When my wife and I were dating, she expressed her wish that I not masturbate between our dates, and that she wished for me to “save myself” for her. I was instantly turned out and loved the thought, and of course she did too.

Male Chastity Cages

Shortly after this, I discovered the world of male chastity cages, and decided I had to give it a try. When I brought up the idea to my (then) girlfriend, she was intrigued, so I purchased one. At first we played around with me wearing a chastity cage for the evening, or even a few days, while she held the key. Eventually, I bought a lock box and would lock the key in it when I was wearing the cage in between our dates. She loved that I did this. We enjoyed the thrill of male chastity, she loved that I was saving myself for her, and I found myself wanting to be locked up for longer and longer periods of time.

Now that we’re married, it’s easier than ever to implement male chastity into our lives. We’ve done a lot of experimentation and have found a rhythm that works well for us.

I learned quickly that my wife isn’t into being a dominatrix, a hotwife, or any of the other extreme roles that people write about online so often. I suspect that many of these stories are just made up, anyway. Simply put, she just enjoys that I’m always saving myself for her and she loves knowing that I’ll never go off and masturbate on my own. One of her favorite things about male chastity is that I’m always horny and aroused, and ready to please her any time she desires. She likes that I’m always ready for physical intimacy, even if she isn’t.

How We Practice Male Chastity

While I used to only wear my chastity cage when I grew extremely horny, I noticed that my wife really loved when I wore it, and would ask about it when I wasn’t wearing it. Lately, I’ve been wearing my chastity cage almost every day.

We don’t hide keys and my wife doesn’t wear a key around her neck. Instead, she has a key and I have a key. She keeps her key with her all the time and I keep my key in a drawer in the house. This was, we can always easily access a key in case of an emergency. As for the possibility of me “cheating”, that just wouldn’t happen as more importantly than this game of wearing a chastity cage, it would be a betrayal of trust.

As for how long I’m locked up, we don’t discuss it. Sometimes I’m unlocked anyway for things like certain sporting activities or going to the doctor. The only agreement is that I’m never given an orgasm…ever.

Now this doesn’t mean that I never orgasm, just that it’s only on very specific terms. When we have sex, other than my wife teasing me a little bit before and after, I focus entirely on her pleasure. She loves the attention, and has since released any guilt she first had about being the recipient of this attention. She now loves laying back while I focus on doing everything I can to pleasure her in bed. Our sex is all her pleasure and satisfaction. But there’s a little wrinkle. The more we do this, the more aroused and gratified I get simply from satisfying her. After she orgasms, I love seeing the glow on her face, and as she’s climaxing, I feel almost as if I can feel some of her climax within my core. I also love how sometimes when she’s getting very close to her climax, she’ll move her fingers into place and will begin masturbating. I love watching her masturbate herself to orgasm while I’m caressing her body and sucking her nipples. It’s just about the sexiest thing I’ve ever seen.

She never unlocks my cage unless she desires penetration. Our agreement is that even during penetration, I’m not to orgasm, so I need to pull out and/or stop before I climax. However, once I pull out I immediately begin to give her oral to ensure that she climaxes.

The only situation in which it’s acceptable for me to have an orgasm is if I accidentally orgasm in my chastity cage while giving her oral or rimming her. Believe it or not, it’s not uncommon for me to get so aroused from licking her asshole that it puts me over the edge. My wife loves that I can get so turned on from exploring her body, so she’s happy to oblige in this case. Otherwise, it’s agreed that while my wife will orgasm whenever and however she wishes, I will only orgasm from licking her asshole IF I should get so turned on that this becomes a possibility. Otherwise, no orgasms for me.

We’ve recently also agreed that if I am very consistent with not orgasming accidentally during intercourse as we’ve agreed, then once a month she’ll let me masturbate. Of course she’ll be there to watch, but that’s okay as I actually prefer being watched by her while I’m masturbating. We’ll see how this goes.

The other day, we tried something new for us. We’ve experimented with anal play before. Things such as pegging, butt plugs (inside of me), and vibrators. I’ve now been locked up without an orgasm for several weeks, and since my wife’s last orgasm, she’s been so satisfied that she’s not needed me to give her oral sex at all. I felt that I was really needed some sexual activity. Unfortunately, she wasn’t in the mood. I then got the idea to suggest to her that we bring out the remote control anal prostate massager we’ve had laying around. It looks almost exactly like this:

However, my wife wasn’t in the mood and really wanted to read her book…so we got creative. My wife got comfortable in bed with her book and the remote control for the anal vibrator and I got on my hands and knees beside her, wearing only my black Joe Snyder Thong with my Ternence chastity cage underneath, forming a small bulge through the spandex of the front of my thong. I lubed up the prostate massager and inserted it slowly into my anus as my wife looked on. Once it was all the way into my ass, she hit the button on the remote to start up the vibrating function. I immediately felt the vibrations throughout my asshole, prostate, and genital region. As I closed me eyes and leaned back to enjoy the experience, my wife looked away and began to enjoy her book. I was slowly growing more and more aroused, and began gyrating my hips. I could tell my wife was completely disengaged, even though she would occasionally tap the button on the remote control to change up the vibrating pattern. Taking such pleasure from the vibrations inside my anus as she lay next to me completely ignoring my pleasure was one of the most erotic things I had ever experienced. It was thoroughly humiliating, yet arousing beyond all my expectations.

I found myself approaching orgasm and asked her whether I should allow myself to climax, to which she simply responded “Please don’t”. I simultaneously wanted to give in to experience an orgasm from the vibrator inside of my asshole, but I wanted even more to enjoy being denied an orgasm and to enjoy feeling my cock attempt an erection inside of my chastity cage. I removed the vibrator and opening my eyes to see her smiling at me. To her, she was happy to allow me this enjoyment, and seemed very glad to oblige, as long as I didn’t orgasm. I found this incredibly arousing. As I went to sleep next to her, I felt rather satisfied even though I didn’t cum. Simply having this period of arousal was exactly what I needed. I’m looking forward to doing this again with her. It’s a great way to allow me to experience some pleasure without it triggering an orgasm. Since my wife only finds herself needing an orgasm 2-3 times per weeks at most, and sometimes only once per week, it’ll be great to have options for teasing and arousing me, especially if they don’t require any effort from her.

The Result of Our Male Chastity

The end result of all implementing male chastity in our relationship is that we have pretty incredibly sex. We’re both extremely satisfied (in our own ways) as a result of male chastity, and our physical intimacy is extremely intense.

Male chastity also brings us closer together because we both love having our little secret. When we get together with friends, we love knowing that none of them know that I’m wearing a male chastity cage under my clothing and that my wife is holding one of the keys. And the denial of my orgasms and my focus on my wife’s pleasure is like a symbolic act that I wish to do everything in my power to please her, and my willingness to give up freely having orgasms whenever I wish in favor of pleasuring her is a way to express that.

I’d highly encourage any couple to consider trying male chastity. It’s been wonderful for our relationship and I believe that it can be a great addition to any couple’s relationship whether done on a full-time basis or ever now and then as desired.