There is a lot of debate on male chastity forums as to whether a written chastity contract is needed, and there’s no true clear answer. The only answer is that it depends upon your specific scenario and your relationship with your keyholder.
A chastity contract can be a great way to clearly define the terms of your male chastity, and the act of composing and signing a chastity contract can be an excellent to ensure that both parties are on the same page. I recently took some time to revise the chastity contract I have with my wife, and I found it to be very illuminating to revisit the terms and to better understand how our approach to male chastity has evolved.
In this post, we’ll explore some of the reasons why it can be very beneficial to compose a chastity agreement.
A Chastity Contract Helps Define Your Approach to Male Chastity
As mentioned previously, having a chastity contract adds a lot of clarity to your approach to male chastity. As soon as both participants begin reviewing the terms and conditions, it becomes abundantly clear which issues are important and which can be discarded.
For example, one partner may with for long term male orgasm denial, but the other may only view male chastity as fun kink to engage in occasionally. In such a case, the process of composing a male chastity contract will reveal this discrepancy and will give both of you the opportunity to make adjustments so that both of you are comfortable and satisfied.
A Chastity Contract Will Offer Clarity
When someone is holding the key to your access to your cock, you need to know that you can trust that they’ll follow through on their word. With a chastity contract, expectations are clearly defined and you’ll learn through the process how much you can trust this person.
If you practice male chastity within the confines of a committed relationship, you probable already have this level of trust anyway. However, many couples that practice male chastity are “friends with benefits”, or even within a relationship with a professional dominatrix. You need to know that your partner has your safety in mind.
You’ll Both Learn About What You Want From Male Chastity
The simple act of writing a male chastity contract will reveal what both partners are looking for in the practice of male chastity. Do you want long term orgasm denial, or even permanent orgasm denial? Do you just want to play for a few weeks and then move on? Are you looking for a dominant/submissive type of play or a more intimate experience as I have with my wife?
Even if you never actually “use” your male chastity contract, composing such a document will bring greater clarity and thus, and more meaningful male chastity experience.
Does Everyone Need a Chastity Contract?
A chastity contract isn’t necessarily for everyone. For example, a couple practicing male chastity within the confines of a trusting and committed relationship, or a couple using a male chastity cage for just a few hours during a play session may find it completely unnecessary to invest time in drafting such a document. It’s only when the chastity cage will stay on longer than a few days that it becomes truly necessary. However, you may elect to create a chastity contract anyway simply because it’s fun to create and to discuss your ideas and fantasies. Creating the agreement “ritualizes” the experience and makes it a bit more unique and special.
Where to Get a Chastity Contract
The most fun solution is to make your own contract. This is what I did with my wife. This gives both of you the opportunity to discuss your needs, expectations, and limits openly and honestly. It’s fun to share your fantasies, and creating your keyholder agreement together can be wonderful foreplay to starting your chastity.
If you’d prefer to download a template and tweak it to your own individual needs, consider the following options:
The above links are solid options which cover a wide variety of situations and options. My chastity contract with my wife is much more simple, and at some point I’ll upload it as a template. If you are looking for ideas and would like a copy, feel free to contact me and I’ll be glad to send you a copy.
Summary
I’d highly recommend to any couple consider male chastity to invest some time into creating a chastity contract. It will enable both partners to put their expectations and desires on the table clearly, will force both partners to talk openly and honestly, and will enable greater intimacy. One of the most valuable benefits of male chastity is the trust and intimacy it brings about, and creating a chastity contract will only enhance this aspect.