This is a question I see asked on forums online a lot. People who aren’t into male chastity play, or who perhaps are a bit curious, often ask what’s in it for the male? Why would anyone want to voluntarily have their penis locked up in a cage, hand the key to their partner, and willingly be denied any access to their private parts as well as being denied the ability to orgasm for an unknown period of time? I hope this post will offer some insight into this.
As a male who practices male chastity within his marriage, I can say that it has been one of the most erotic, intimate, intense, and sexually arousing experiences that I’ve ever experienced. It’s been wonderful for my marriage, our sex life, and the glow on my wife’s face.
I’ve always had a fetish for male chastity, but I didn’t know that it was a “thing” until I began reading about it online a few years ago. With us, the journey to male chastity began when we were still dating. My wife (girlfriend at the time) told me that she didn’t want me to masturbate when we weren’t together, and I readily agreed. Then, when I suggested that I wear a chastity cage when we were apart, my girlfriend loved the idea. Fast forward to now and we practice male chastity on and off (though it’s often on) and I wear a chastity cage almost 24/7. Regardless of whether I’m wearing a chastity cage, I still don’t masturbate without my wife. In fact, I almost never masturbate. The only person who gets to enjoy my cock is my wife, and she loves it that way.
When we’re practicing male chastity, I wear a stainless steel chastity cage 24/7. I keep an emergency key in a small pouch which is padlocked shut. Only my wife has the key to the padlock. In a true emergency, I could break open the pouch with a knife if necessary, but I won’t do that unless it’s actually an emergency.
We still have sex regularly, though the focus is exclusively on my wife. When we have sex, she lays naked in bed and I worship and adore her body until eventually I give her oral sex until she cums. She will then usually masturbate until she cums again. Once she cums, we cuddle for a little bit either until she falls asleep or until she needs to get up to resume whatever she was doing before sex. Sometimes she’ll tease me a little bit through my chastity cage, though sometimes she does nothing at all. I love seeing how satisfied and relaxed she seems after she cums, and I love how comfortable she is with being completely selfish in bed. To some, this might sound like torture. I find it incredibly hot.
While the benefits for the key holder may seem obvious, some may ask what the chaste male gets out of being locked in chastity. I’m here to tell you that the experience is amazing, and I willingly give my wife the keys to my chastity cage.
I love feeling the chastity cage locked around my cock 24/7. It’s a constant reminder of my promise to my wife to always put her pleasure before mine. The irony of this is that the locked chastity cage brings me constant pleasure. The cage serves as a sort of second wedding band, though this is one that only me and my wife know about. Whenever I notice it, it reminds me of her, and of our little secret.
Wearing a chastity cage and being unable to orgasm, let alone even have a proper erection, is arousing in and of itself. I love the constant reminder that I’m forced to always be horny while my wife is always 100% sexually satisfied. It’s like experiencing foreplay 24/7. Sometimes when we lay in bed at night, I like to think about how satisfied my wife is, which in turn makes me aroused and horny. I then think about the cage locked around my cock and I get even hornier, which results in a feedback loop. As frustrating as this might be, it’s even more intoxicating.
Not being able to touch myself results in a wider variety and greater intensity of arousal possibilities. Now, when my wife touches me, it feels like waves of electricity move through my body. We also now play more with anal play (more on that later), and the teasing is absolutely magical.
Our agreement is that I wear the chastity cage 24/7 and it only comes off for medical emergencies or for contact sports. Otherwise, it stays on even when we have sex. It doesn’t get removed until my wife decides that she wants to use my cock for HER pleasure, which means intercourse. However, she’s usually so satisfied from receiving oral sex from me whenever she desires it that she can easily go weeks or even a month or more before she desires intercourse. But that’s fine by me; I’m happy to wait.
On those occasions when I’m craving sexual stimulation and my wife, we’ll often use a remote controlled vibrating butt plug which she’ll control from her smartphone. As long as I’m wearing my chastity cage, we know from experience that I won’t be able to have a full orgasm, though a ruined orgasm is still possible. My wife is okay with this given that I’ll still be horny following a ruined orgasm, but at least the release of semen will relieve the pressure somewhat. Sometimes, my wife will be actively involved by caressing my genital area while I’m enjoying the vibration of the butt plug, though other times she’ll simply relax in bed with a book. I personally prefer the second option as the humiliation is thoroughly intoxicating. And my wife loves it because it takes no effort on her part at all. She simply changes the vibration setting whenever she turns a page in her book.
When I’m locked in chastity, I find that I experience more pleasure from pleasing my wife than I ever have. I get aroused just from touching her, and giving her oral can turn me on so much that it’s almost enough to make me ejaculate. In fact, I’ve gotten so turned on just from rimming her that it’s been enough to bring about an orgasm. And from being locked and without an orgasm for so long, the levels of arousal I’m able to experience are well worth the wait. It’s like a constant high 24/7. Once one leans in and accepts the constant state of arousal, it’s incredibly intoxicating. Every single interaction and every touch with my wife becomes more sensual and heightened.
On an erotic level, it’s also incredibly arousing to feel so horny all the time, but to bring my wife to orgasm and see her feel free to be completely selfish and just roll over and go to sleep. I suppose it takes a certain type of approach to sexuality to appreciate this, but personally, I love that my wife feels comfortable enough to enjoy the benefits of male chastity so selfishly. It takes an enormous amount of trust for her to be able to trust that acting so selfishly in bed is perfectly okay with me, and that I in fact condone and encourage it.
At this point, I have no idea when my wife will unlock my cage for the purpose of intercourse, nor do I care. As long as I’m wearing my chastity cage, it almost feels like I’m having sex with my wife 24/7, except that I’m unable to orgasm. It can be frustrating, but it’s also incredibly intimate, erotic, and arousing. A part of me hopes she never unlocks me.