My wife and I have been practicing male chastity in some form or another for several year now. It took a lot of experimenting and open discussion, but it feels like we finally found our rhythm. We’ve experimented with chastity cages, and we still use one on occasion, but we mostly employ the honor system, and that works just fine for us.
How We Practice Male Chastity
First off, I don’t masturbate. Ever. My cock belongs to my wife and only she is permitted to use it for pleasure. The only scenario in which there’s even a remote chance that I’d ever masturbate would be if she decided that she wanted to watch me masturbate, but usually she prefers to play with my cock herself. This ensures that I’m never pleasuring myself when I’m not with her, and ensures that I don’t deplete my libido.
Second, when my wife and I are intimate, it’s always assumed that she’ll orgasm, but it’s never assumed that I will. If we’re having intercourse and I’m getting close to orgasm, I’ll tell her so she can choose whether she’d prefer that I orgasm or wait. Usually, she chooses to have me wait, in which case I’ll pull out and will give her oral until she cums. Afterward, we’ll cuddle and kiss as she recovers from her orgasm, and we’ll usually go right to sleep. Even though I’m still aroused, I love knowing that she’s completely satisfied.
We’re not on a set orgasm schedule as some couples are. We prefer not to plan ahead too much. The only plan we have is that we’ve agreed that the absolute most I’ll orgasm is once per week, though the wait can extend for however long she pleases. Usually, it’s anywhere between one and three weeks, which seems about perfect.
We’ll also allow plenty of time for teasing to ensure that I’m constantly aroused, and simply because my girlfriend enjoys touching my body.
Music to My Ears
After many stops and starts, it took a long time for my wife to truly trust that I felt so attracted to and excited by her. She was afraid that it was manufactured due to the chastity practice. But a few nights ago, she said something that made me incredibly happy. She told me that she loves when I go a long time between orgasms and that she loves knowing that I’m always aroused and fantasizing about her. This was music to my ears!
One of the very things I love most about male chastity is the feeling of constant arousal and of always fantasizing about her. I love experiencing sexual gratification through gratifying and satisfying her. Bringing her to orgasm is my gratification and satisfaction. And surrendering my ability to have an orgasm is my gift to her.
How Male Chastity Builds Intimacy
As a result of how we practice male chastity, it builds greater intimacy in our relationship. My wife knows that I’m always ready to please her and by relinquishing control of something as intimate as my orgasms, it’s not only our little secret, but it makes us feel closer together. First of all, we discuss my chastity openly. Second, she knows that I’m freely giving up the opportunity for immediate gratification in order to be able to please her whenever she desires. That takes some time to adjust to, and isn’t always comfortable. However, she knows that I love the feeling of being constantly aroused and maybe even just a little bit sexually frustrated as this serves as a constant reminder of the promise I made to her and as a reminder that she owns and controls my cock and my orgasms. And she loves knowing that as a result I’m always horny for her and always thinking and fantasizing about her.
Another benefit of male chastity is that my wife has no pressure to satisfy me sexually. She knows that as long as she’s enjoying the experience and is satisfied, that brings me a tremendous amount of pleasure. When she achieves orgasm, she’s free to cuddle and fall asleep without being concerned about reciprocating. I love seeing her feeling so free and liberated from this burden that women are conditioned to feel. It brings me great joy to know that she’s satisfied and can feel free enough to simply say “thank you” after her climax and then just fall asleep in my arms. That said, she often will gently caress my cock as she cuddles me, though she only does so for as long as she enjoys doing so. When she decides she wants to just lay back and relax, she simply stops caressing my cock and leaves me to enjoy my erection. Somehow, I find myself grateful for how wonderful it feels, yet also grateful that she feels secure and comfortable enough in our relationship to be able to feel free of any obligation to bring me to orgasm. It’s incredibly intimate and erotic.
Summary
In general, my actions in the bedroom are all dedicated to pleasing my wife. When I strip down at the end of the day to reveal my thong underwear, I love knowing that she enjoys the sight, and I try to give her ample opportunity to view my body. I also initiate some form of intimacy nearly every day, even if it’s just cuddling and kissing. She loves knowing that she’s under no obligation to follow through with anything, especially if she’s not in the mood, but she loves knowing that I’m always desiring of her. And she loves the freedom of not being bound by conventional thinking that the woman has to please her man in bed. She knows that the best way to please me is for her to simply relax and enjoy how much I love pleasing her.
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